Hello. My name is Judith and I’m a recovering perfectionist. Maybe you are, too. I’ve spent more time than I can quantify chasing perfection and I have little to show for it. Because the thing about perfection is that it is elusive.
But more than that, it’s hobbling. It will hinder you from creating or pursuing the things you desire, the passions and dreams God has placed in your heart: the relationships you’re meant to have and the life you’re meant to live.
In fact perfection often will keep you from even trying, from beginning the things you know in your heart and your spirit that you were created to do.
Perfection has gripped me and held me fast in its lie too often. I have written words only to delete them or put them aside. I have formed friendships only to let them languish. I have faced difficulties in my marriage only to blame them on my spouse.
All in the name of perfection. All because perfection created standards in my mind that nothing and no one could reach.
Too many dreams and desires and lives are sacrificed on the altar of perfection and it’s time to set the record straight: perfection is a lie perpetuated by the enemy so that we do not realize our God-given potential and ability and talent.
But here’s the good news: It’s not too late to begin again and leave perfectionism to itself, to the enemy.
We do not have to fall prey continuously to fear and lives of desperation. We can live boldly and we can live abundantly. It’s our choice.
I like the way The Living Bible translates the verse in Ecclesiastes about watching the wind and the weather: If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done (Ecclesiastes 11:4).
There are no perfect conditions. There are no perfect people. There are no dreams without risks and hurdles and there are no relationships without difficulty. There are no lives without struggles and trials.
But there is One who is perfect: the God who planted those dreams in your heart and who gave you the vision for your life and relationships, who gave you the vision for your business or your career or your art or your parenting or your community. And He is waiting for you to choose to try, to live, to create, to hope, to shine, to thrive.
What you create won’t be perfect, but it isn’t meant to be. But today is a perfect time for you to choose, to do those things you feel drawn to in your heart.
God created you to do things that only you will do in this world during your imperfect life. He knows the stumbles you’ll experience and the mistakes you’ll make and the failures you’ll face. But He knows also the wonder you’ll experience and the success that you’ll have and the ways your life will touch the lives of others. It’s far beyond what you can see or know or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
And it’s possible. In Him, through Him, with Him, it’s possible (Matthew 19:26).
It’s possible if you’re willing to leave perfection behind and embrace the One who is perfect and who can multiply and redeem every effort you make in partnership with Him.
Let’s not sacrifice any more dreams or relationships on the altar of perfection. Instead, let’s do the good works that God ordained each of us to do for Him in this world.
So, I’m curious. Has perfectionism ever kept you from doing something you know you were meant to do?